I meant to write a post but couldn't quite word it right. I typed and deleted a billion times. It was about the gray area that miscarriages present for women who have super early losses. Like, a lot of time I don't know how I should feel. Then I found this quote and it says everything I was attempting to post about in the first place.
"The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence. For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend, we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful some not. Still we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only “I’m sorry for your loss.” But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?"
-Laura Busch
How do you mourn a baby that was an "un-baby"? That is my struggle right now. . . I feel like I should be over this and I just don't know what to do.
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